Each day of our lives we are faced with the challenge of coexisting with our neighbors. In our homes we must deal with our loved ones, at work we must interact with our co-workers, even while at the grocery store we must interact with other patrons. Being one whom firmly believes in treating others the way in which I would like to be treated, I don’t find the interacting with others to be a daunting task at all. I am also confident in the talents and skills of which God has given me, and frankly I am confident in who I am. However, there are those whom are not. There are people whom are unhappy with themselves, and their circumstances, and are determined to make others feel the same way. When the bible warns us in Ephesians 6:12 that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms, we should take heed. Unfortunately, there are people whom walk among us that are overcome with evil. We unknowingly call these people our friends, our co-workers, and sometimes our family members. Having to interact with unsavory individuals can make our lives dreadful. Trying to sustain in a toxic situation is no easy mission. I recently struggled in coping with a toxic situation and wanted to share my experience in hopes of helping someone else.
Tips for Coping with Toxic Situations:
- Being subjected to a mentally unhealthy environment can lead to emotional and physical stress. It is important to recognize and identify when you have been reduced to an unhealthy situation. If you are unhappy, being treated unfairly, and find that you are not your normal self, a change must be made.
- You must identify the cause of your stress and be proactive about finding a solution for your betterment. Consider speaking to your aggressor about his or her actions and the way they make you feel. If the aggressor acknowledges their actions and are willing to make amends, keep the lines of communication open and continue to make progressive steps toward maintaining a positive relationship. You may also want to seek help from an impartial intermediary whom can help mediate the situation. If your situation is toxic in general, speak to the appropriate parties about your concerns.
- If the aggressor refuses to own up to his or her behaviors, you must immediately remove yourself from the toxic person or situation. The situation will not improve and conditions will worsen. Pray for the individual and be on your way.
- After you have removed yourself from the toxic situation things will immediately improve. It may take some time to get back to your normal self but in time you’ll get better. When I was in the midst of dealing with my situation, my self-esteem and self-confidence declined. I lost the motivation to do the things I often enjoyed because of my imbalanced mental state. The moment I decided to walk away from the toxic situation a felt a sense of relief. After removing myself I began to exercise, read my bible more and be social which helped a lot. I also enjoyed a little retail therapy from time to time (lol) and spending time with my family.
- My aggressor eventually faced reprimand for the actions against me and I’m happy to report that I have been vindicated. Most importantly, I learned some very valuable lessons in dealing with this situation. I am not a perfect person nor do I live a perfect life, but I do believe in treating others well. I value my sanity and I am prepared to protect it at all cost. If that means that I have to remove myself from certain situations in order to be content, I am willing to do so. I believe that God intends for us to be happy. I trust Him and I know that He wants for us to live a life of love, bliss, and prosperity.
If you have any tips on how to make it through a toxic situation please feel free to share them in our comments section.